Ever justified your actions using this line … “it’s not my fault!”

I confess, I have … too many times in the past but I remember years ago, my manager used to say to me, “stop justifying Trish and take responsibility.”

And sometimes we need reminding that the decisions we made yesterday have brought us to where we are today so instead of crying “it’s not my fault,” we have to ask the question “if it’s not my fault, how did I get here?” Hard to acknowledge, but it’s true.

But what I want to focus on in this article is the energy that is drained from us when we adopt a culture of blame. Instead of taking on a new perspective into how things could be in the future, we respond with finger pointing, bitter arguements with others and rehearsing “he said, she said,” all of which is really designed only to do one thing …

Distract you from your purpose in life and lead you down the wrong path.

And I know we laugh about there being “no fury like a woman’s scorn,” but ultimately this fury will lead us to self-distruct. I mean, I can’t imagine for one minute what life would be like getting up day in and day out going to the office to the job I hate … again.

Ever been there? I have. And I became so resentful with many of those around me, that I lost all passion for my job and in doing so, lost my sense of direction.

But the truth is, the only person who was losing out because of all of this resentment was me! My colleagues around me just got on with life while for me, it felt like every waking moment of my day was to live to get out of that place.

But it dawned on me on day, that I was letting my feelings control me and therefore, unintentionally, my destiny, and I didn’t like the way my feelings were managing my life – literally.

So I decided to stop blaming and justifying and focus on what I really wanted. And one of the decisions I made, was to step back and look at “what was my fault.” By doing this, I could make a conscious decision not to go in that direction again and end up with the same old results.

In the words of W.L. Bateman:

If you keep on doing what you’ve always done,
you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.

So I hope I’ve encouraged you to take stock of the things you can start taking responsiblity for today and use that blame energy to make a 360 degree u-turn in the direction towards your dreams.

Make it your fault to live on purpose, today.

Blessings,

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